"Why Does This Happen?"

Why is it that when ever I think about that person I get sad, angry, frustrated etc?
It’s like an automatic response leaving me feeling as though there‘s nothing I can do.

So what’s actually happening?
Your brain is responding to an association of the person, not the person themselves. Your brain then creates an immediate neurological instruction to feel sad, angry, frustrated etc. 

Think of it like a vending machine, imagine everyday you approach the vending machine for your favourite snack, Snickers, you know the code off by heart (D3) because it’s a daily staple. Like clockwork, every time you hit D3 a Snickers drops down into that magical collection box with the swinging door. 

One random day, something comes over you and you suddenly decide that you’d like a change, this time you’re going for Twix (E7). Your mouth is watering and you punch in the numbers but out of habit you punch the numbers for Snickers. As you watch the wrong treat fall into the collection box with horror you realise you’ve got to do something to ensure that this doesn’t ever happen again. From that day forward you triple check the code before punching it in, rewiring your brain to cater for your new favourite snack... Twix. 

Back to the example of why is it that when ever I think about that person I get sad, angry, frustrated etc? It’s like an automatic response leaving me feeling as though there‘s nothing I can do. Just like the vending machine, it’s not permanent, it’s just a case of rewiring your brain to remember that Twix = E7.

Within my coaching sessions, we take a look at what’s in your vending machine as well as the corresponding codes. We make sure these sync up so that you’re always getting what you want and expect.